Tony Robbins said it best: “Where focus goes, energy flows.” Holistic wellness is based on the principle that an energetic life force exists in all things and beings. Internally, balanced energy flowing between body, mind, and spirit promotes wellness, while imbalance promotes illness.
Externally, finding a balance between everything you expend energy on breeds fulfillment, while imbalance breeds discontent and burnout. If you’re looking to improve your relationship with food, finding balance amongst the intricacies of your life is essential.
It’s challenging to move through life with ease when your time and attention are pulled in many different directions. It can be difficult to develop a relationship with food that you want and deserve when your time is dedicated elsewhere. If you’re caught up in stress and responsibilities, you have less quality time for a personal and mindful connection to food.
And when those responsibilities don’t align with your true self (your values, your ethics, and your core beliefs [link to Core Beliefs blog post]), you rob yourself of an authentic connection to your own life. If you love sitting down with the family for dinner but often get home from work too late to do so, your values aren’t shaping your daily life. If you express yourself creatively through cooking but feel obliged to exercise or visit a friend instead, you might feel stifled rather than liberated.
Logistically, positive eating habits also require your time. Shopping for food, preparing meals in line with your desires, enjoying meals with friends and family, and eating mindfully without distractions — these are experiences you have to make room for. By finding balance in your schedule, you can prioritize your relationship with food.
Think of your internal self as a shape. It’s much easier to navigate through the unpredictable pathways of life as a firm yet flexible round ball. Developing your unique mind, body, and spirit in equal proportions allows this resilient shape to form and to roll through life with relative ease. Focusing disproportionately on any aspect of yourself creates a shape that’s bound to get caught on the jagged edges of life.
If your energy expenditure manifests your reality, then what concerns you most? Your physical appearance? Spirituality? Intellect? When we allow one aspect of ourselves to dominate, we influence our relationship with food.
If you’re overly focused on which foods are healthy and which are toxic, you miss out on eating for pleasure. If you focus on how a food will affect how you look, you create a sense of distrust with your body. If you neglect to consider how food might feed your soul, you miss out on a deeper connection with yourself. Developing all aspects of yourself through self-reflection and exploration will allow you to create a more balanced relationship with food and your body.
Creating a harmonious relationship with food requires a balance between structure and freedom. While these qualities show up in all aspects of your life, they are especially relevant to what, when, where, and how you eat. Being structured around your health might include black and white rules like only eating particular foods, having strict portion sizes, eating in certain timeframes and environments, or having a weekly exercise quota. Allowing yourself complete freedom looks like eating any food in any amount, ignoring cues of hunger or fullness, and moving your body constantly or not at all.
Where you wish to fall along the spectrum is your own choice. Finding the appropriate balance will allow you to develop a better, more functional relationship with food that works for you.
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